Is it now harder to connect with people online?

June 7, 2017 § Leave a comment

I think it is. I do better with letters and phone calls and emails because they’re direct and personal. I don’t understand people who think their connections will thrive when they’re shunted to mass audience of political and impersonal dittos and viral memes.

I don’t understand why my pattern is: “Oh I have a thought. I will share it because it’s interesting to me and may be to other people!” Share thought. No one reads, or one person unfollows and I wonder if it’s what I shared. Then I think “no, it can’t be, because I’m conscious of high sensitivity levels, and nothing I tweeted is hateful, insulting nor a breach of community guidelines.” But if I ever tested if anyone was out there, maybe foolhardily posting a threat to harm self or others, I’d get attention but the negative type that lead to three-day lockups or police records. And who would take me seriously when I had a real crisis?

I know people are out there, they have lives. How did I go from having friends I could phone and talk to to friends who post 15+ times a day on their social media without reading what goes on in other people’s lives, without changing my posse? Has this happened to you? It’s one thing to not log on very often, because of real life and real people coming first, but having real life + real people, then barraging one-way only tweets, and expecting to maintain friendships?

“Why didn’t you tell me your marriage was ending?”
“Because you hadn’t read any of my earlier posts, including the one where I reported a malignant tumour removed, so I didn’t think you’d care. You were more interested in sending fifteen messages about your dog walks and how only swanky neighbourhoods were targeted for thefts while my friends’ bicycles were stolen from their co-op storage units.”

2016: So much promise, so little time

January 3, 2016 § Leave a comment

Twitter time and output will reduce. I believe all of six followers out of 295 accounts actually read what I write and four only occasionally, which makes me think my content is not in keeping with Twitter standards or that I don’t perpetuate my content through less-immediate channels.

No celebrities other than the occasional Brit or Canadian, not much sports, Canadian-only politics, reclaiming some self-confidence and autonomy through personal achievement and improvement: not what Twitter wants to feature. The people who have time for me in real life don’t check into this social media platform very often. The time I spent last year on Twitter could have been invested in better, different endeavours. For example, I could have written more to my friend who told me a few months ago she had stage 4 cancer. I haven’t seen her online since October. I mailed a card at Christmas time.

I don’t expect my audience to grow, but I do expect my noise intake to decrease. I’ve added the RSS feeds of some of my favourite content providers for online browsing.

Here are my largest Red Notebook topics for 2015, in alphabetical order:

#ADHD, #diet, #encryption, #exercise, #keto, #lifehacker, #linux, #lowcarb, #movies, #onion, #pgp, #privacy, #python, #raspberrypi, #recipe, #recipes, #reddit, #sigils, #todo, #tolisten, #toread,  #towatch, #tutorial

I feel excited and energized by the availability of online courses, new music, voices and ideas.

I’d like to be pleasantly surprised by people more often and less often let down by thoughtlessness or perceived malice this year, including my own. I will experiment with subduing the ego and opening perception. I’m writing more letters to people.

I will do more things that scare me and have some risk of failure. I nestled in homeostasis and was happy to let the world pass me by if it were mostly engaged in perpetuation of barbaric practices and self-destruction, until I woke up and recognized some of the people I care much for were moving ahead without me.

Bonjour, Terre!

February 22, 2011 § 3 Comments

This Donors Choose project was funded a tiny little bit by one person, and a whole heap by Google.

I asked for the project to be retweeted. I sent notices to the school’s PTSA newsletter, and they were published, one a week for two weeks, until the project was funded.

I incorporated a link to this project on some local “we care about our public schools, and our public schools teachers” communities. I challenged people who used forum threads to champion one school board candidate and disparage an opponent to fund the project by $20 per winning candidate. They didn’t do that.

But only one person and Google funded this project. Mostly Google.
Seven people clicked on the link I posted on Twitter, but I know none of those people who clicked funded the project.

If every parent in the school donated $1.50 to the project it would have been funded.

If every person who donated to a Seattle School Board candidate donated $0.30 to the project it would have been funded.

If every PTSA BOARD MEMBER of the school donated as much to this project as they did to a pro-education reform, pro-charter schools candidate, this project would have been funded.

If every US-based Twitter account who BEGAN following me post project-publication retweeted to their hundreds of thousands of followers, and .1% of them gave $2, the project would have been funded.

I feel that I went to the appropriate online areas, but those appropriate areas are not populated with people richer than I, who care as much as I about this project.

I thank Google and that one other person for fully funding the project, but I am reversing my thinking on asking the US public, especially Seattle, for help. If my state legislature is not interested in funding fully public education, why do charter school operators, who want public funding but none of the accountability, think they can succeed here?

I can’t even get people in a community of “let’s support our teachers!” to contribute to a project that wouldn’t even go to DonorsChoose.org if the school district hadn’t made staffing budget cuts, if the school itself and its PTSA had amassed hundreds of thousands of dollars (I was a PTSA school treasurer, I know how large those accounts can be!) to retain staff and fund itself adequately for supplies, if the state legislature fully funded state education. I wouldn’t have posted the project if I didn’t know the teacher to be excellent, and if there were not a donation drive already run by the school PTSA.

 

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